An equal marriage
Like most other men, Baburao Bhajnavle of Solapur used to believe that his wife should always be under his thumb. He even used to beat her. Babasaheb Mane, a grocery shop owner from a neighbouring village, also behaved badly with his wife and imposed restrictions on her like his father used to with his mother. But now these men have understood the importance of being in an equal marriage.
Both men learned lessons in gender equality from Astitva and Halo Foundation - organizations that work to create greater awareness of the gender inequality prevalent in our society. Because of their work many men have realized that women are deserving of the same respect and equality as men.
“The first thing I did was to get my own water for a bath and started with such small changes,” says Baburao. He now helps his wife with household chores like chopping vegetables which have made her life much easier. This transformation has not only changed the atmosphere inside their homes, it has also led to a better relationship between the husband-wife.
Even in matters of sex, the relationship is more equal. Bhajnavle says his wife now feels more love towards him. Although both men faced ridicule from their communities for this change in behaviour, they not only believe in a more equal marriage, but also practice gender equality.