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I was born in a middle-class family in South Asia. My father had what you called
the three vices of masculinity: anger, aggression and arrogance. When I was a little
girl, he used to scold and beat me (and my brothers) for very small reasons like if I
didn’t show up when he called my name, if I spilled water, etc. I am a mom myself
now and I still cannot understand how a parent can do that to his or her child. The
other grave consequence of my father’s behaviour was that my very close relatives
saw that as an opportunity to prey on me.
I was sexually abused by three male relatives, one of them for years, until I was 13.
I don’t even remember when it started. I am guessing probably since I was a baby.
I was severely depressed for many years and even got to a point when I was ready
to commit suicide.
It was because of my then boyfriend’s (my current husband’s) love and support
that I was able to slowly come out of it and deal with it. I still go through bouts of
depression but am able to control it much better now. I have resigned to the fact that
I’ll only be fully cured upon my death. I am happily married now and live in the US
but my childhood memories still haunt me.
-Anamika
For most survivors of abuse, support
is a crucial part of the healing
process. Receiving compassionate and
validating responses from friends and
family can make a real diference.
It is gratifying to see that so many
survivors who have shared their
stories in this booklet, received
immense love and support from
their husbands, parents or friends
during disclosure and their journey to
recovery.
CHUPPI TODO! | 06
the three vices of masculinity: anger, aggression and arrogance. When I was a little
girl, he used to scold and beat me (and my brothers) for very small reasons like if I
didn’t show up when he called my name, if I spilled water, etc. I am a mom myself
now and I still cannot understand how a parent can do that to his or her child. The
other grave consequence of my father’s behaviour was that my very close relatives
saw that as an opportunity to prey on me.
I was sexually abused by three male relatives, one of them for years, until I was 13.
I don’t even remember when it started. I am guessing probably since I was a baby.
I was severely depressed for many years and even got to a point when I was ready
to commit suicide.
It was because of my then boyfriend’s (my current husband’s) love and support
that I was able to slowly come out of it and deal with it. I still go through bouts of
depression but am able to control it much better now. I have resigned to the fact that
I’ll only be fully cured upon my death. I am happily married now and live in the US
but my childhood memories still haunt me.
-Anamika
For most survivors of abuse, support
is a crucial part of the healing
process. Receiving compassionate and
validating responses from friends and
family can make a real diference.
It is gratifying to see that so many
survivors who have shared their
stories in this booklet, received
immense love and support from
their husbands, parents or friends
during disclosure and their journey to
recovery.
CHUPPI TODO! | 06
