Kudos again Aamir for the fantastic episode and picking a very sensitive tight-rope-walk topic and presenting it well, inviting the other party (khap) to present their side I felt was a very nice gesture as everyone should get to make their point (can you do that with the doctors too, who seem to be making a hue and cry about your previous episide?) BTW - I'm writing to give my perspective on how the question for this episode could have been framed better. The question here is phrased in a bit misleading manner (and I got misled too) that makes users click 'Yes' in its response, though they will like to agree with you and team that it should 'Not' be allowed. I did that mistake and clicked 'Yes' first, and have rectified by clicking 'No' more than twice and sending sms's to counter-balance my mistake :-) .. but I think the results being relatively heavy on the 'Yes' side are due to the way the question has been framed I think. So you and team I think should not be disheartened by large number of people clicking 'yes' as I feel that is an abberation. by the way, I am a Brahmin, from a conservative family and city, married to a girl of my choice (of a different caste), did require lot of patience, confidence and mature handling, but happy to say that this is my 10th year of marriage and everything (with everyone) is working out well so far (touch-wood!) Please keep up this good work, much appreciated ... as our society needs much more internal cleaning to do by getting involved in what I will call a 'bottoms-up' approach (apart from usual top-down, where leaders/politicians are pushed to "do" work!)

hello amir sir, i think i have a very small suggestion to make........if u could add a few clips of how ur previous episodes have improvised the situations.....and the authorities response to these problems.......i think this would definitely inspire more people to help in every possible way.......the mass is aware of all that is happening around through many other shows being aired on television earliear as well as in present, but hardly any show gives us the actions that have been taken before by the authorities or the society.........if u include such improvement and make people aware that yes there has been influence on everybody through ur show....i think masses may support it further.......

This is not a tragic story which I am going to share. This is can be an inspirational story for all lovers. I, a hindu brahmin bengali girl, love a muslim Kashmiri guy. The time i realized i am in love with him , first thing came into my mind is religion. But still i heard my heart's voice and followed my love. I was very scared that my parents will never allow me to marry him, and i decided i will live till my parents don't know about it, if they come to know and don't accept him, either i will never get married or i will kill myself and i was scared to share this. My parents, i don't know how, they learnt everything about our relationship, about him, he being muslim and asked me for confirmation, when i told them the truth i was amazed. They instantly agreed to it and said they just care for my happiness nothing else. They are not bother about the society, relatives religion. They just care about both of us being happy for ever. My dad called Muzamil home and said the same thing to him as well. We are not married yet, but my parents treat him as their own son, and eager to see us married. I am proud of my parents. Every parents should be like them. I am a proud daughter today. :-) This is my part of story... still waiting for his family's decision. I am sure that they will also be like my parents and will be agreed to it happily. And soon we will get married following both Hindu and Muslim customs :-)

Ours is an inter-caste marriage too though we never believe in castes and religions. By birth i belong to an orthodox Hindu Brahmin family financially well off. I was like a princess in our area. I fell in love with my degree classmate Pradeep who's a Menon and supposedly not from such financially well off family. His family (his parents and his brother and wife) were very supportive though they never wanted us to go against my family's wishes. We finished graduation and got jobs and started saving for our marriage and future. Pradeep spoke to my parents about us and my parents told they'll never agree and if i wanted i cud get out of the house and get married. Then on they'll think i never existed. For 5 years my mother rarely spoke to me let alone normally. I was the only child and was going thru hell. Though we rarely even spoke over phone my parents believed we met frequently. Finally after Pradeep got a small job in a reputed company i spoke about our matter to my uncle who understood the situation well. He spoke to Pradeep and me separately and decided to talk to my father about us. Still they were not willing to get us married. Finally we took a decision since I was 25 by the time and did not want to regret delaying the marriage and it was getting difficult for my family also since alliances kept coming for me. We both were very clear that we wud not elope whatever may happen. His family took initiatives and we decided on a date after which his parents came and spoke with mine. Finally after much compulsion from my uncle they agreed to just attend the simple function at a temple. My wedding which wud have been a celebration otherwise turned out to be a very simple function with hardly 10 attendees. We had of course arranged a reception for about 200 - 300 of our friends and his relatives since most of mine were not interested. Anyhow as we believed after a couple of weeks my parents started talking to us. They left our town the same evening of our marriage to Chennai to stay with my father's brother's and my Grandpa who'd gone there on few months back. Slowly but steadily things were back to normal since i used to call them every weekend to make them understand i never left them for Pradeep. I always wanted everyone including me to be happy. Most surprising matter was when we went home to meet my Grandpa. My father warned me that he may fire us out of the house. Still i went over and asked his blessings and he was quite cool abt the whole issue. Whether he accepted us wholeheartedly or not in the first instance it broke the ice. Few of my relatives who were a bit wary of us at least in front of him were now very free. Things fell into place soon and we were back in the family. I only wished my Father wud have been there a little longer to see our son grow up. He left us when my son was hardly 2 months. He was diagnosed to cancer around the same I realised that I was pregnant. Pradeep made sure that we went over and show our son to my father who was being treated at Chennai. We came back with a heavy heart after we saw my father's condition and were trying to get a transfer or get another job in Chennai so that we can stay with my parents till we get him cured of it. Within 10 days he expired. Pradeep was the one to suggest we stay with my mother since i am their only child. Our son made a big difference and he's the only one responsible for getting my mother back to live life normally. Its been 7 years now since my father left us and since then my mother's staying with us and we visit Pradeep's parents whenever we get a day off. We're into business and my mother supports us completely by taking care of our 7 year old son who's her best friend. I was bothered that my relatives wud keep a distance from my parents for letting our marriage happen. But i am happy that they stood by my parents thru out and still are very close to all of us. I'm happy that we took the right decision and happy to see that everyone is happy for us. Many of my elder cousins spoke to me before my marriage to try and get me out of the relationship with Pradeep. I'm happy i listened to every word they said and thanked them for their concerns and promised them we'll not let u down. They're all very happy to see us happy. After all thats what every one wants .. to make sure their kids are happy rt.. Only if my parents had the courage to stand by me it cud have been a lot more easier on us. Anyhow the bond just got stronger since they stood close knit all thru. I believe Faith and Love can bring magic to life ..

sir,i m mamta belong to hardwar,uttarakhand, i want to share my marriage story , my marriage is intercaste marriage , i belong to SC category and my husband belong to OBC category ,he is living with joint family , we met during our B.tech course in the year 1999 ,we decided to marriage after settle down , his family was totally against of it, all relatives also because my caste ,some times i feel that is my caste is soo. . that everyone hates this, but my husband he loves me soo much that he tried to convince all family members for this marriage for this we waited for 5 years in the year 2008, 11 feb,but still some family members were not happy, they created so many problems mother~ in~ law was in depression, she afraid of honor killing ,but my husband was so supportive that he manages all of these things ,we are now happy married working couple and having a sweet four months old girl child and my in~laws and my parents both are very happy. but sometimes i think that,why caste is so important for a marriage ,we proves to the those people that intercaste marriages are also successful in the society.

sir mera naam Sumit meri age 23year hai aur mai ek real estate company me back office executive hu. sath hi   Forensic Science ki bhi study ker rha hu. sir mai ek ladki ko pasand kerta hu uska naam Pratima hai hum dono ek dusre ko bohut pyaar kerte hai aur shadi kerna chahte hai meri family ko is shadi se koi objection nhi hai aur wo agree bhi hai sir problem ye hai ki unke papa humare ghar aye the sari batein fix bhi ki ab achanak shadi ko mana ker rhe hai cast ka reason bata ker ab sir humne bhut kosis ki unhe samjhane ki per wo abhi samjh nhi rhe sir hum kahi aur shadi nhi karenge aur bhag ker yar family ko heart ker ke bhi nhi per agar jald se jald sab theek na hua aur humari shadi me koi bhi problem hui to hum dono "suicide kerne ki soch rhe hai " sir hum apko ye sab isliye bata rhe hai agar aap humare liye kuch ker sake to....................Thank You (Amir Sir)

Dear Aamir sir, myself Narendra and i am doing C.A and i love alot a girl, I can't live without her. The problem is I am hindu and she is muslim. sir we are in relation from last 5 years and we want to get marreige and we want to tell our parents about our relation, but our parents are strictly against love. Sir if we tell them about our relation then they will kill us. sir really we can't live without us. sir we decided to run away from home but we are helpless. We want to settle in Mumbai but we are helpless please sir help us.... I will do any work in the feild of accounting and auditing in Mumbai. please help us sir, i have a hope from you. Sir we are living with lots of pain and tension in nagpur. sir if you will want to help us please contact me. my cell number is. Please Aamir sir help us....i can do work in the feild of film line. please sir give me a job in mumbai, It's request to you sir. help us.

My close friend (Rahul, name changed, age - 25), working with an reputed company want to marry a girl (Neha, name changed, age - 23) with whom he has been in relation for more than 9 years. The only problem is that the guy is a Punjabi and girl is a Jain and because of which their family is not agreeing for the marriage. Their point is that their other childrens might be affected because of this inter caste marriage.  However, Rahul tried to convince them but it was all waste as their parents are not even ready to listen. He finally took a step of getting married at ARYA Samaj and after that they moved to court for court marriage in front of magistrate but somehow neha's dad came to know about it and later did a big drama at court even hitting neha mercilessly and finally breaking up all the things at court and thus court marriage was not possible.  I request to guide or need help from your team as i can not see them apart as i know how much do they love each other.  Pls pls need your support so as to convince their parents and i believe after watching this intolerance to love episode might help us to go further to help them get married with their family consent. I am looking for an advice of how to make it happen as Neha's dad is ready for honour killing and i am not sure till which extent he can go. Pls help.

sir my sister had a love marriage with sikh . being a hindhu our family was not agreeing for this but due to circumstances we had to allow d marriage .. its being 2 and half year since then but my sister is being harased by her mother in law whu is a retired district education officer and her sister in law who belong to political family. it started from 2 suits nd went up with selling up my sister jewellery . we tryed to accomodate both when there mother refused to give them ne money or help or assistance afta few months of marriage . we got them settled in faridabad. both as doctor are earning well bt now the boy mom is just get his attention by giving him monies nd gift and boycotting with my sister .. bein a doctor he should be a literate bt he instead turned into animal and beated my sister ! i just want to knw how can we deal to all this makin it sure that the guy can force her for divorce and action taken against his mom and sister

aamir khan ji ko mera namaskar hai . mai apni ek choti si zindgi ki vastvik gatna aapke samne batana chahti hu. jab meri umar sirf 18 saal ki thi tab mai ek aise ladke ke pyar mai aa gayi jo bina educated tha sath mai drink bhi karta tha par mujh se humesha aise jatata tha ki vo mujhe se bahut pyar karta hai mujhe bhi lagne laga ki sayad isse jayda mujhe koi pyar nahi kar sakta aur mere papa ke lakh samjhane ke bavjud maine use 21 saal ki umar mai love marriage kar li. meri shadi mai koi samil nahi hua. par meri zindgi mai us pal hi sab kuch khatam ho gaya jab mai reception ke baad us ghar mai kadam rakha. na koi riti revaz aur na koi bahu ka sammaan sirf 4 din riste daaro ko dikhane ke liye thora bahut dikhava. pahli raat ko hi pati dev sarab ke nashe mai aaye . apni galtiyo par bahut pachtava tha par mere paas khone ko bhi kuch bacha na tha. samaj nahi aa raha tha ki kis narak mai aa gai hu aur papa ke ghar bhi nahi ja sakti kyunki sab apni marji se kiya tha. shadi ke 4th day se hi bhukhe payse din bitane padte the kyunki pati dev ne mere papa ke paiso ki vajah se mujhse pyar ka natak kar ke shadi ki thi ki aaj nahi to kal kuch na kuch milega. aur vo apne irade mai kamyaab ho gaye. mai pyar mai andhi ho gayi thi. phir 5 mahine baad holi ke festival mai papa mausa ji ke kahne mujhe pure riti revaz ke sath vida kara kar le gaye. phir jab mai sasuraal vapas aayi to sasuraal walo ki mar pit mere sath suru ho gai is tahar papa ne meri khushi ke liye lakho rupay kharch kiye . par mere upar sasuraal valo ke atyachar badte gaye. 2-2 dino tak bhuka paysa rakha jane laga , store mai 2-2 ghante band kar diya jata tha. mai pagal ho gai thi aisi kai pratarnaye mujhe di gai ki agar aaj mai yaad karti hu to meri ruh kaap jati hai. pragnancy ke time andhre kamre mai bhukh se tarpti thi. bacche ko sirf is liye janam dena chahti thi ki usi ki sahare zindgi kat jayegi. kyunki galti ki thi mata pita ka dil toda tha to saza to milni hi thi. kai bar mann mai aata thi ki kud kar mar jayu par jab kokh mai hath rakhti thi to ye soch kar ruk jati thi iska kya dosh hai . mai ise apne paap ki saja kyu du. pati ka niyam tha subah se sham sarab pina , raat mai der se ghar aana , kamre mai bathroom karna. phir ek din in logo ne mujhe mar dene ka plan bana liya par ishwar ne mujhe bacha liya kisi tarah mai apni jaan bacha kar papa ko phone kiya aur papa ne aakar mujhe aur mere bete ko bachaya. aaj 4.5 year s se mai mayke mai hu. papa ne mujhe b-ed , mba karaya par mai job nahi kar sakti kyunki mera pati sarab ke nashe mai mere office aa kar mujhe badnaam karta hai. kya muhje jine ka kah nahi hai aaj mera beta 5 saal ka ho gaya hai par mai uske liye kuch nahi kar pa rahi hu. na mai ji pa rahi hu aur na hi mar pa rahi hu . KYA REAL MAI MAINE BAHUT BADA PAAP KIYA HAI?

Hi Amir, My name is Maya....i am 24 yr old girl from canada.....i am writing this message to you in a hope to share my story for tommorrow's episode.....i guess it is about love.....Pls share my story i know it might not be one of the best ones but this is the only hope i have to get my message through my fiance (mangayter)...... I am muslim by religion and he is hindu....we met in sept and instantly fall for eah other.....In a starting i was hesitating to go ahead with our relationship as i knew there will be problems ahead due to different religion, cultures but he assured me that no matter what happens he will be with me and religion or his family cant stop us from getting married.....So we started dating and 6 months we spend together was magical, he and i was in love like no one......he treated me like a princess and 6 months tak jab bhi shadi ki baat aati voh bolta " Hum apne family kho batayengay agar voh na manay toh hum bhaag jayengay "...Usne mujhe itne sapnay dekaye kay gham ya judai kya hoti hai bata bhi nahi tha. In 2 months of relationship he gave me a promise ring (which means i promise i will be wid u for life) aur phir voh din aaya jo meri zindagi ka sab se pyara din tha.....On feb 10th he went on his knees and ask me to marry him....That moment of my life was a dream.....he gave me engagement ring aur humari saghayi ho gayi. Iss bech mei nai apni sisters aur few friends to hamaray baaray mein baata tha....After engagement he introduced me to his sister and brother-in-law as his girlfirend not fiance cuz he said he will tell them slowly bas phir pata nahi kis ki nazar hamaray pyar ko lagi key 2 weeks kay ander sab katam ho gaya.....After his sister knew we r engaged she and her husband said lets tell his parents now i was like 10 at night, I even said this is not the right way or time to tell his parents about us but they use their brains and told my fiance if u r serious about her then you shouldnt be scared telling ur parents aur bas hum uss kay parents ka ghar gaya.....After knowing i am muslim they said there is no way they will agree to this relationship voh kabhi nahi managay.....We told them we r very serious aur hum kabhu kisi aur se shaadi nahi karaengay, kafi behes hui, i told them i am ready to convert my religion they said no we cant accpet you cuz u r not born hindu.....Both of us was very shattered and didnt know what was comign ahead of us....Next morning we meet and he said " i have to sacrifice my love for my parents " and i was completely broken in pieces cuz we both knew from the starting that hamara ishq aasaan nahi hoga magar phir bhi hum may pyaar kya aur nibanay ki kasam khae ti......i told him u said if our parents dont agree we will leave home and all that promises he said sorry ' i have to leave you, i love you but i cant be with u " so i told him today u r leaving and sacrificing our love for your parents tomm you will marry someone else for ur parents and he said " the future is unknown " For me that was the end of my life, i loved him to death so i decided to end my life.....i overdosed on sleeping kills and was rushed to the hospital, i survived and i also found out i am pregnant.....Once more i started feeling that may be because of this pregnancy they will accept me. I told my parents they were very mad too but they said ok jo hua voh hua, aab tum dono shaadi kar lo aur apni zindagi start kar lo.....I tried to get in contact with him to tell him about the pregnancy news, after tryign a lot he text me saying " stop lying " i told him i am not lying he can take me to any doctoe they will confirm the pregnancy and he replied through sms saying ' Pls co-operate and be mature'......i didnt know what this meant or i wasn't sure whether he or his sister was they one texting me so i decided to go to his place.......I went to his house (he wasn't home) i told his parents that i know they had a dream about their bahu to be hindu and all but things r gone to ahead and i am pregnant, they were shocked and quied for a moment and he came and ask me what am i doing in his house? and i told him i am here to tell his parents about my pregnancy thats it after this the things his mom said was unbelievable.....she said it is your fault not my son's, he is a man and a man can do anything i should have thought and that who knows who's paap is this and i am blaming it on her son....i told them if they dont believe it they can do dna test once the baby is born.....after hearing a lot of bad and bey izzzat words i left that place.....I was so mad how could he stand there and listen things like that about his baby cuz more than anyone else he knows this is his child.....Bas phir kya aab main 4 months pregnant ho aur uss ne ek bar bhi phone ya sms nahi kya.....I am just alive cuz of this little life in me otherwise i could have ended my life long time ago....After that day i didnt hear nothing from him, how can he be silent....i am all alone, my family haven`t talked to me since 4 months cuz they want me to abort this child .....pyaar ki itni baadi saza mili hai.....i am living alone, going thru this tough pregnancy aur voh waha apni family kay saath hai......i tell him about every appointment thinking may be voh aajayay but nahi 4 months ho gaye.....every day i am living like a death, going through so much complication cuz i hardly eat or drink.....went to hospital few times and was on IV, bas aab tu wait kar rahi ho kaab hamara baby iss duniya main aaye ga.....I know abortion would have been easy option for me but still i love my fiance i cant kill our baby no matter how hard it is gonna be....Parents stopped talking to me, sisters stopped talking to me all i have is this baby, Family nai abhi se is bachay ka naam bastard rak diya ( i am sure you know how muslim familes are)...i know this is just they starting life ahead is very long and extremely hard, the questions that my baby will ask scares me. Pls share my story i know he watched this program, he is big fan of Amir......May be this is the only way he will know what i am going through.....Thanks a lot Amir i watch each and every episode of this program, my fav one was `maa`....you are doing awsome job...keep it up Allah hafiz

hi aamir /sir  i m manish 24 years old live in .kanpur aapke sare episode aache lage par last episode jisme aapne love marrige ko aacha bataya hai ye thik nahio laga kyuki jab koi ladki apna ghar chod kar yani bhag kar jati hai tab user pyar to mil jata par kya ek pyar ko pyar pane ke liye pure pariwar ka pyar chod dena thik hai aapko paa hai ghar walo ko kya kya dekhana padta hai ghar ki dusri ladki ka bhi jeewan narak ban jata hai mai ek normal life ji raha tha delhi me job karta tha ki papa ka hath bataunga par ek din meri bhi ghar me aisa hua meri bahan bhi ghar chod kar chalui gayi she is 18 years old i know ki wo balig hai par kya balig ho jane par hame ma baap ko laad mar deni chahiye mai janta hu ki kya kya hota hai ghar walo ka jeena hakram ho  jakta hai aur dusri bahan ki bhi padai me dikate aati hai par maine aisa nahi kiya apni choti bahan ki padai me koi problem nahi aane di ma aaj bhi roti hai pita ji aaj bhi rato ko akele mai rote hai mai ye sab dekha nahi pata par kya karu kuch bhi nahi kar sakta isliye love sove kuch nahi hota i hate this episode plz if u read this mail plz contact me i will tell u full story my no. is really bahut paresani hoti hai life narak ban jati hai